How to politely say "no kids" on your wedding invitations

Planning a Wedding: How to Politely Say "No Kids"

Planning a wedding can come with a multitude of choices and hard decisions. One tricky decision is whether to invite your friends' and families' children. It's not uncommon to decide against having kids at a wedding. There are often valid reasons, such as budget constraints, venue restrictions, or personal preference.

But how do you navigate this gracefully without offending anyone?

Here’s how to word your wedding invitations (and related stationery) to make your “no kids” policy clear while keeping things kind, respectful, and drama-free.

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Use Your Envelope to Set Expectations

Addressing your invitees directly can clarify who is invited.

For example:

• John & Jane - Use the names of only those you wish to invite.

• Mr & Mrs Smith - Use their titles and surnames for a more formal approach.

  
  

Avoid terms like "The Smith Family," as this may imply that kids are invited too.

While this method is subtle, it’s best not to rely on it solely. Some guests may assume children are invited unless it’s explicitly stated elsewhere.

Add a Note on Your Wedding Invitations or RSVP Card

This is one of the most common and polite approaches. Add a small note on the RSVP or a separate details card. Here are a few gentle wording examples:

🌿 Simple and Clear

• “We respectfully request an adults-only celebration.”

• “Due to limited space, we are unable to accommodate children.”

  
  

✨ Warm and Personal

• “Although we love your little ones, this will be an adults-only celebration.”

• “To allow all guests to relax and enjoy themselves, we kindly request no children.”

  
  

Phrasing can be tough, but as long as you're clear, consistent, and polite, this can be received well. Sometimes, even adults want to let their hair down!

Be Consistent from Start to Finish

If you include “adults only” language on one piece of stationery or your wedding website, ensure it aligns everywhere else—invitation envelopes, RSVP cards, wedding website, and any emails or follow-up communication.

What NOT to Say

This seems obvious, but avoid being blunt or using harsh language in your wedding stationery, such as:

• “No kids allowed.”

• “Adults only. No exceptions.”

• “This is not a kid-friendly wedding.”

• "Children are not welcome."

  
  

Even during the most stressful times of wedding planning, it's important that your tone remains warm and friendly.

Final Thoughts

Saying "no to kids" doesn’t make you a bad person or host. It simply means you want your vision to shine through. With a little care and consideration, your guests will understand and respect your decisions.

In many cases, adults may prefer not to bring their children so they can enjoy your big day just as much as you will.

Additional Tips for a Successful Adults-Only Wedding

Communicate Early

Let your guests know about your decision as early as possible. This can be done through save-the-dates or your wedding website. Early communication helps set expectations and reduces any potential misunderstandings.

Consider Your Guest List

Think about the dynamics of your guest list. If many of your friends have children, they may be disappointed. However, if your circle is primarily child-free, this decision may be more accepted.

Offer Alternatives

If some guests are concerned about childcare, consider providing a list of local babysitters or nearby childcare facilities. This shows that you care about their needs while maintaining your wedding's adults-only policy.

Emphasize the Celebration

Focus on the celebration aspect of your wedding. Remind your guests that this is a special occasion for adults to unwind and enjoy each other's company. Framing it this way can help guests feel more positive about the no-kids policy.

Be Prepared for Reactions

Understand that some guests may be upset or disappointed. Be prepared to handle these reactions with grace. Acknowledge their feelings and reassure them that your decision is not a reflection of your feelings towards their children.

Conclusion

Navigating the "no kids" policy can be challenging, but with thoughtful communication and a warm tone, you can make your wishes clear. Remember, your wedding day is about celebrating your love, and sometimes that means creating an environment where adults can fully enjoy the moment.

Still feeling nervous about how to phrase it? We’re happy to help customise your wedding wording to match your style and tone—just reach out! Niamh is a master in English, so she will be able to help you navigate this strange terrain.

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